As a sole carer, it often feels as though i have absolutely 0 time to do anything that doesn’t revolve around my attention demanding babe. So much so, I’ve found myself, on occasions, become super resentful (especially towards my partner, who receives the brunt of all my foul moods the poor boy)! Resentful towards people that are able to come and go as they please. Able to stay up late AND sleep in late. (Gosh the things I would do for a full 8 hour sleep!)
When these feelings of resentment arise, and everything starts feeling a bit much, the following scenarios are usually what I find myself doing. Even if it’s only a sneaky 10 minutes. Those 10 minutes make a HUGE impact on the rest of my day.
1) Chuck babe in sling/buggy, and go for a WALK!
Do whatever it is you need to do in order to make you walk your zen. I quite often treat myself to an ice cream😍 (Has anyone tried the new dark chocolate magnums!?!) Bring headphones, listen to your favourite music/audiobook.. I personally prefer to walk in silence. In the present. Well I try.
2) Go for a drive
My daughter hated being in the car until I stopped sitting in the back with her. Now I offer to drive absolutely everywhere! Albeit I do have to blast Disney songs in order to keep madam content. But if it means being able to switch mum mode off and get back to me, even for a moment, who cares. Can we admit “a whole new world” is a banger please?
3) Go to the park
Bring blanket / toys / food… whatever floats kidos boat, and let babe be free. I find although the set up is exactly the same as at home, me AND Noa are a lot more at peace being outdoors. Maybe it’s the change of scenery? The fresh air? The open space? I’m not sure. But it works. AND, as a bonus, apparently being outdoors helps baby to sleep better at night 🙂
Eat with your baby, and enjoy YOUR FOOD too! I remember in the early days, scoffing my face between her naps, praying I would finish before she wakes up and then feeling supper annoyed that I wasn’t able to enjoy my meal. Eating is an experience and a fun one to share! PLUS baby will most likely need double the time it takes you to finish, so perfect opportunity to sit back and whatsapp… I mean watch.
5) A SCREEN. There. Said it
I refuse to feel guilty about this one and so should you! Phone, IPad, tv, whatever is closest to hand in moment of need. Nursery rhymes on YouTube often do the trick, and ‘Baby Tv’ (channel 623 On sky in U.K. & ireland) is an absolute godsend! There’s also loads of baby apps you can download that help with counting and colours. (I literally searched “baby fun learning games” -there are LOADS to pick from).
Don’t get me wrong. I don’t suggest leaving your child watching back to back Peppa Pig all day. But if it means you can take a tinkle, wash your hair, eat a meal — IN PEACE! — bloody do it.
I hope some of these … hmm.. life hacks? I’m not sure what to call them.. don’t feel like tips.. ANYWAY. Hope they come in handy for the next time you’re in need of some headspace.
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