Today was a big day. Baby Iyra had her first tantrum. Something I don’t think they make commemorative little cards for.
At 11 months she’s had a few back-bending, head-banging meltdowns over rusty kitchen utensils i’ve taken off her (yeah, I’m such a prick). But this was a next level, terrible-twos style shitstorm.
It made me all FML about mumming — something that hasn’t happened since the 4-month-sleep-regression-which-shall-not-be-named. And the reason why I felt so selfie pitying (Insta filters always soften the blow) and total KO?
Because I have no clue WTF I’m doing. After all, what are you meant to do when your baby psyches out over ACTUAL NOTHING? Zero.
Up until now, she only cries for a reason. And for each reason I have a solution. The strategy goes something like this:
Tired! Boob to sleep.
Banged head/toe/butt on floor/wall/another baby! Boob.
Tummy ache! Boob.
Teeth ache! Boob.
No boob! Boob.
You get the picture. The picture is 99% boob and when it’s not boob it’s hugs. Boob is basically a massive vital organ hug anyway. But if boob/hug vortex doesnt stop them crying, what else is there? WHAT ELSE! ( . ) ( . )
This tantrum (part 2) was because I would not let her lick an empty can of Coke covered in ants that she had found on the pavement. Like i said, i’m a total prick. And the reason she was on the pavement was as a result of tantrum (part 1) where she refused to sit in pram, so we could only move if she pushed it herself.
Boob/hug did NOT work. Only licking rubbish worked. While distraction eventually worked and we made it home without being kettled by riot police, I still wouldn’t really know what to do if it happened tomorrow.
So while I sweatily read up on the sketchy oxymoron that is “gentle discipline”, help a sista out. GIVE ME ANSWERS. Tell me WTF to do when a baby has a tantrum, somehow using kindness and respect. Somehow not being a prick. And I’ll owe you an empty can of Coke covered in ants. Turns out that’s priceless in this house.
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