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Name & age: Bunny 26
Babe: Etta, February 2016
What does being a woke mama mean to you?
It means submitting to parenting, becoming a student and allowing the process to teach you at its own pace.
I’m learning to eliminate expectation and be happy with what I am faced with — and I’m very thankful for that lesson.
What made you choose gentle parenting? And what is your favourite aspect of it?
I knew during my pregnancy that I wanted to be very close to my baby but I didn’t have any knowledge of the concept of gentle parenting.
Ultimately I was inspired by working women in the African community, working jobs with their babies on their back and breastfeeding wherever necessary.
I admired the fact that they kept going and kept their baby with them. I will always remember building my business with my baby sleeping on my back. I’m very proud of that.
Most awesome moment so far?
Every time I have a moment where I think ‘wow I’m actually doing this and I’m so happy’!
Biggest struggle so far? How do you cope with stressful moments?
I struggled with depression during me pregnancy and ultimately I believe it caused a traumatic birth. I didn’t bond with my daughter until a while after she was born and I wasn’t prepared for that.
I felt a lot of guilt and when I felt I should be happy, I was grieving. Parenting can be so overwhelming because it is so deep. Sometimes you just have to move self care to the top of your to do list.
The simplest things can be a game changer, like the sound of trees. When it gets hard, get out and breathe!
How do you juggle work with gentle parenting?
I started planning my own business during pregnancy in order to allow me to be a single mum, work and parent my daughter the way I wanted. I couldn’t see opportunities to do that so I made one for myself.
Today I am working and expanding all the time and it’s amazing to build something for my future, myself.
Any advice you would give to new mums?
Your difficulties are what make you better. Embrace them and forgive yourself for everything. Go into and be open. Whatever happens, your best is always good enough.
What’s on your soundtrack to your first year of being a Woke Mama?:
Too many but recently Tu Pac, Keep ya head up.
Visit Bunny’s business: Etta and I
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