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Name & age: Bailey, 26
Baby: Nova-Rose, 8 months old
What does being a woke mama mean to you?
It means going at my own pace and making my own mistakes and choices.
My family are a very vocal and opinionated one and whilst I love hearing all their stories of parenthood and appreciate all of their advice, I also want to give myself a chance to do it my way and see what comes from that.
It’s also about realising that my best is the best for my baby. Her happiness is always going to be my drive so whichever way I choose to parent her to achieve that is the right way.
What made you choose gentle parenting? And what is your favourite aspect of it?
I had never really allowed myself to think of the type of mother that I’d be, as I was told that I wasn’t able to have children. As soon as I found out about the little miracle cashew inside of me I knew that I wanted to nurture my baby in the most natural way that I could.
I wanted to breastfeed, I wanted to co-sleep and I wanted to answer every cry that my baby made.
Babies are solely dependent on the love of their parents and I see it as my job, a job that I love, to reassure my baby whenever she needs it.
My favourite part is breastfeeding Nova-Rose. To be able to provide for her in that way and have that special bond between us is something that I can’t put into words and I’m in no rush to stop.
Most awesome moment so far?
Seeing Nova-Rose develop her own personality as each day passes. She’s such a fiery baby and definitely knows what she wants and what she doesn’t!
Seeing her bleary face in the mornings is my favourite thing in the whole world.
Biggest struggle so far? How do you cope with stressful moments?
Dealing with my anxiety whilst not wanting it to affect how Nova-Rose develops as a person is my biggest struggle. I’ve always suffered with anxiety since I was a child and being pregnant only amplified it.
As this pregnancy was never meant to happen I was anxious from the get-go and I can’t tell you how many hospital trips I made to check on my baby’s movements, (I always think it’s better to go then not go though; that’s what they’re there for!)
I knew the kind of vibes that I wanted Nova-Rose to be surrounded by in order for her to be the calmest and most secure baby that she could be and my anxiety was messing that up.
Post-natal care is all but non-existent and it really is down to you to make sure that you’re the best for your baby.
It’s a daily struggle for me to contain my anxiety and some days are harder than others but with a supportive partner and family, I can ride the waves.
How will you juggle work with gentle parenting?:
I’m lucky/unlucky in the sense that I don’t have to rush back into work, as I was made redundant not long before I found out I was pregnant.
I’ve recently started using my creative side to sell handmade frames which is a good way for me to channel my nervous energy. It’s becoming more challenging with a newly-established crawler though!
Any advice you would give to new mums?
Really and truly take the time to be with your baby in the early days. In a world consumed by social media it’s so easy to look at your phone more than your baby. By all means take the photos but afterwards just allow yourself to be in the moment with your new love, you’ll never regret it.
Also, when you’re having a bad day, like you stink, your tummy’s rumbling and your baby just won’t stop screaming bad… it will pass. It really, really will.
What’s on your soundtrack to your first year of being a Woke Mama?:
J Cole – 4 Your Eyez Only. In particular the track She’s Mine – Part 2. That song came just at the right time for me to be able to explain how it felt to have Nova-Rose in my life.
Find Baileys beautiful ‘Super Nova’ frames here.
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