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Baby: Madison, 23 months
What does being a woke mama mean to you?
Ignoring all the bullshit that is thrown in our face about what parenting should look like and just listening to ourselves and our babies.. and ANSWERING.
What made you choose gentle parenting? And what is your favourite aspect of it?
I don’t think I chose gentle parenting, it just happened naturally. I had a co-sleeper and knew I wanted to mother through breastfeeding, but I didn’t exactly know what that looked like (well I thought I did anyway, but wow. I was so naïve.)
When I went back to work, the overnights were when my baby and I reconnected. She nursed all night long and her sleeping with me (attached to the boob of course) was the only way, and once I found moms like you [Cle & Jessie], and my pocket of likeminded parents and ignored all the “sleep training this way!” signs I found peace, acceptance and absolute fucking awesomeness in being the mother I was always meant to be.
Most awesome moment so far?
The moment I mastered baby wearing and nursing and napping and everything-ing.
Biggest struggle so far? How do you cope with stressful moments?
Nursing strikes. The most desperate feeling of the All Powerful Booby Magic being gone. I’ve learned to take it day by day. Minute by minute. Because it all passes. What is today is not what is tomorrow.
If going back to/at work, how will/do you juggle with gentle parenting?
Bed sharing. Baby wearing. When I went back to work, my baby wanted me when I was home. Every second of every moment we were together (ok maybe a few moments were ok for daddy to say hello) but for the most part, it was me and the boob. Finding time to give that to her has been the key.
Any advice you would give to new mums?
Listen to your baby and your instincts. Answering your babies cries is a good thing, don’t ever listen to someone saying that it’s not. Ever. Also, accept things as they are and delete what you thought should have been. You’ll drive yourself crazy with the IDEA of what you thought motherhood should look like. Just look around and accept and love everything that is happening. Be present in the moments because they are fleeting.
What’s on your soundtrack to your first year of being a Woke Mama?:
Yoga music all day every day.
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