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Name & age: Gemma, 26
Kids: Connor 6, Logan 4, Amélie 3
What does being a woke mama mean to you?
Being the best I can be, one day at a time.
What made you choose gentle parenting? And what is your favourite aspect of it?
Gentle parenting creates gentle kids, kind and loving kids. I love seeing my kids become the people I dream about.
Most awesome moment so far?
The bond I have with my kids, the bond they have with each other.
Biggest struggle so far? How do you cope with stressful moments?
Connor is going through a diagnosis for ASD. It gets tough sometimes but we like to talk through issues, giving time for calm before tackling the cause of the stress is necessary.
How do you juggle work with gentle parenting?
I’m in university at the moment, juggling is TOUGH because life is stressful but we are managing.
I did an access course at my local college whilst pregnant with Amélie 4 years ago, I then took a year out to stay home with the three of them which is when I started my degree in criminology and sociology… I graduate in July
My husband works long days so is out of the house a lot, so it’s all on me for the most part. My schedule is pretty tight because my timetable this year has worked out terribly and I’m in lectures every day!
But it goes something like this:
Monday – I take the boys to school and Amélie to nursery. I’m in uni so my mother in law picks the boys up from school and then I pick Amélie up on the way home from uni. It’s a tight one to get from my long commute on the train to nursery before it shuts!
Tuesday – more of the same!
Wednesday – I take the boys to school, my sister comes to watch Amélie, I go straight to uni post drop off (I’m always late for uni on a Wednesday but my tutors have kids and are really understanding) I finish early and head back in time to pick the boys up from school.
Thursday – I take the boys to school, Amélie stays with me until a friend picks her up so I can get the train. Because I’m at uni all day my mother in low is with the boys again and they all get dropped back with me as soon as I get home.
Friday – I start uni early so hubs takes the boys to grandmas for breakfast, she then takes them to school and I drop Amélie at nursery early before my train. It’s a tight schedule to pick her up after my last morning lecture. We go home for lunch then collect the boys from school!
Time for myself comes few and far between, plus all the other admin that comes with having a kid going through autism diagnosis and school/ homework. I’m tired a lot but will be forever grateful for the family and friends that have my back – this degree will be a shared effort!
The running around I can just about manage, the struggle comes when I’m expected to keep up with readings, essays and all uni work that is stressful… at the moment I’m coping, because I am making myself work every second I get (who knows when a sick bug will write off a weekend?!)
I put a lot of pressure myself to excel and that may sound dicky but I want to push myself to achieve as much as I can.
I want to show my kids it doesn’t matter what or when you choose to do things, they are my motivation and the reason I’m doing this. I honestly believe that I wouldn’t be in uni now if I hadn’t had them!
Any advice you would give to new mums?
One day at a time, trust yourself and be your own Mum, not the one you think you should be, own it!
What’s on your soundtrack to your first year of being a Woke Mama?
Helen Reddy – I am woman, is that way too cheesy?!
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