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Name & age: Millie, 32
Baby: Caleb, born January 2017
What does being a woke mama mean to you?
To be brutally honest if you are a mother, and your job is to keep little humans alive? Baby mama YOU ARE WOKE!
You know how hard it is to carry a belly for 9 months! Pregnancy and everything that comes with it… then you have the baby and your whole world just changes for the rest of your life in every aspect. That’s being a woke mama for me — you have to be literally awake 24/7 FOREVER!! lol.
All jokes aside, motherhood did change my life forever and I wouldn’t have it any other way, I feel like I am this powerful woman that can conquer the world with my invisible cape.
Being a Woke Mama is not just about taking care of my son, it is about empowering other mamas, about making a difference, making the world a better place for my son, showing him that he can be whatever the heck he wants to be as long as he puts himself to it.
Nowadays they tell you “be yourself”, then when you do they criticize you for it and they tell you “ok maybe not that way” (I think there’s even a meme for that).
So teaching our children just that — to be themselves in a world that’s so judgmental is making a difference, is empowering, is being a woke mama.
What made you choose gentle parenting? And what is your favourite aspect of it?
I was born in Panama (Central America) in a time where children were still in this little protective bubble from society, from social media, from the internet. I think my generation was the last generation that grew up without smart phones. I remember I had my first Nokia phone when I turned 16!
What I’m trying to say is that it was different, my parents sacrificed a big part of their lives to give me everything and I grew up in a home filled with love. They are my best friends and they taught me everything I know — and thanks to them I am who I am today.
A lot of my parenting skills have to do with the way I was raised; I chose gentle parenting not only because that’s the only type of parenting I know, but because it makes such a big difference.
I love the fact that I can discipline my child in a positive, respectful and empathetic way. It’s a connection you would never be able to get by being authoritarian. In the end discipline as we know is teaching, and we can teach gently.
Most awesome moment so far?
Sheesh I can only mention one? I have awesome moments like everyday! Lol — the day I held my son for the first time tops any awesome moment I’ve ever had in my entire life!
Biggest struggle so far? How do you cope with stressful moments?
My biggest struggle is being a “SAHM” (Stay at Home Mom). Not a lot of people talk about this but staying at home to take care of your child is a whole different world.
Some think it is the best thing ever! Don’t get me wrong, it is a blessing, but they have no idea how hard it is.
I’ve been part of the corporate world since I was a teenager — I never stopped working, sometimes I even had 3 jobs while I was going to nursing school (yes I’ve been a zombie for a long time). My point is, staying at home sure has a nice ring to it but in reality it makes a 9 to 5 job look like a vacation.
Because it really never ends, there are no breaks, no time for lunch, no time for showers or chat with coworkers. I read the perfect description for it the other day: staying at home is “100 hours a day of barely concealed chaos”.
Regardless of how hard it is, every day when I wake up and I see those little eyes staring at me saying “mama wake up! Is GO time” makes it all better!
How do I cope with stressful moments? Red red wine!!!!! Just kidding I don’t even drink anymore! I do love my coffee in the morning otherwise I cannot function. I try to take time for me, do my nails, my hair, pamper myself here and there, because we need that. Sometimes just a quick chat with my best friends makes it all go away too!
Any advice you would give to new mums?
Don’t do it, it’s a trap! Kidding! It’s the hardest job you’ll ever do in your entire life. It’s relentless, exhausting, you’ll do a lot of crying, you’ll feel like a failure, you’ll feel like quitting every single day. BUT there is no hood like motherhood — and trust me you can do this!
No matter how bad of a day you are having it doesn’t matter, because you were designed to get it done! At the end of the day and in the eyes of those tiny little humans you are PERFECT! So keep up the good work, stay strong, being a mother is the most amazing thing!
What’s on your soundtrack to your first year of being a Woke Mama?
“Dj Zinlhe — My name is” this song is my jam! Because I’m the queen of my house I just dance to this with my broom. Honestly it gives me that extra pump I need to get up and do what I need to do.
Last word: Thank you for making me part of this awesome movement!!
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