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Name & age: Danellia, 28
Baby: Corrie-Rai, 6 years old
What does being a woke mama mean to you?
Being a woke mama means being conscious and intentional in the way that I raise my child. That means giving my child the same respect, love and attention that I expect from my child, as well as being open to the lessons my child will teach me.
I truly believe that just as we are our children’s first teachers, they are also our teachers.
Being a woke mama means acknowledging that children are human beings who are to be heard and seen, not just seen and not heard.
It means teaching my child not just to be culturally competent, but also appreciative of other cultures. It means teaching my child that everyone is different and beautiful in their own way and that we should not judge, but love and stand up for the rights of all people.
What made you choose gentle parenting? And what is your favourite aspect of it?
I chose gentle parenting because I came from a family with a history of emotional trauma related to the way discipline was implemented — and I decided that I did not want to continue that cycle with my family.
My favorite aspect of it is speaking to my child like a competent human being.
Most awesome moment so far?
My favorite aspect of gentle parenting so far is witnessing my daughter show an act of compassion for a friend of hers, or asking inquisitive questions that show me that she has taken this approach and applies it to the world around her.
Biggest struggle so far? How do you cope with stressful moments?
My biggest struggle when it comes to gentle parenting is gaining the support of my family. Because our family has always done things a certain way, they tend to think that my way is a little extra or is not effective. That can be very disheartening.
How do you juggle work with gentle parenting?
Going back to work was very difficult at first because I needed to find the right preschool that was in line with my philosophy. I never did, and I eventually quit my job to follow my passion as a birthworker, and my daughter is now homeschooled.
We are part of a homeschooling co-op that is in line with the gentle parenting philosophy in how my child is treated.
Any advice you would give to new mums?
Do what feels right to you and trust your intuition. You know what is best for you and your family. Don’t let roadblocks steer you off your course.
What’s on your soundtrack to your first year of being a woke mama?
“Rise up” by Andra Day
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