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Name & age: Ajané, 23
Baby: Iya, 16 months
What does being a woke mama mean to you?
Being a woke mama means being continuously awakened to the divinity inside of you.
I believe it’s an ongoing process of tapping into the power inside of you that brings you closer to the God(dess) in self that allows you to live life more abundantly.
It is a constant state of cleansing, purification, regeneration, and ascension.
It means making a conscious decision to unlearn and let go of the self-sabotaging forms of conditioning that we’ve been taught for so many generations, in order to raise up children who have an awareness of who and what they truly are.
What made you choose gentle parenting? And what is your favourite aspect of it?
We wanted our daughter to be raised differently than we were.
Although this is our child, she is first and foremost another human being. Her Spirit was gifted to us, not given to us to possess and control.
Of course it’s our job to teach, guide, and protect. But she was also sent here to teach us some things and guide us into a new way of doing things and that’s something that we have to honor and respect.
Gentle parenting is a lifestyle that is completely different from the way many of us were raised, and it’s necessary if we’re going to raise up more socially responsible human beings.
Most awesome moment so far?
My awesome moment literally happens for me everyday. When I see just how much love my daughter has and how she expresses that, it lets me know that we’re doing something right.
Biggest struggle so far? How do you cope with stressful moments?
The biggest struggle I’ve faced is not falling into old ways of doing things. There have been times where I’ve found myself going against things I said I would or wouldn’t do.
But even still, I have to make peace with the fact that I’m doing something new and I’m not always going to get it right.
I find myself doing a lot of reading, meditation, studying.. things that keep me moving in a positive direction and remind me why I started on this journey in the first place.
How do you juggle work with gentle parenting?
Luckily we have been blessed to manifest our vision of working for ourselves so that we could maximize the amount of time we spend with our daughter.
Of course, we still have to have a balance between work and giving Iya our undivided attention. But it’s a lot easier to stay committed to gentle parenting when we don’t have to leave her in the care of others who don’t share our same philosophy.
Any advice you would give to new mums?
There is no such thing as “perfect” parenting. As moms, I think there’s a lot of pressure to get everything right, all of the time and that’s just not possible.
Allow yourself space to learn. Open up and be honest about your journey into motherhood, even if some of those feelings are “negative”.
Keep a journal ALWAYS because you’re going to want to look back at certain moments, even if it’s just to see how far you’ve come.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Don’t be afraid to remove yourself from energy that is toxic to you and your child. And most importantly, don’t forget about YOU mama.
Find time to nourish and fill yourself back up whenever you can because the energy you carry is going to have a major impact on the way you relate to and nurture your babies.
What’s on your soundtrack to your first year of being a Woke Mama?:
A little bit of gospel when I’m feeling discouraged, a little bit of trap music (I have to admit) for when I need to hype myself up and have some fun, A GREAT BIT of meditation music and sound frequencies (courtesy of YouTube) just playing around the house to keep the energy high, and a good mix of reggae and soulful music because Iya loves it and she loves to dance!
Follow the super wise and awesome Ajane on Instagram @Womanofthewomb
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