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Name & age: Makeda 31
Baby: Nina Nefertari, 20 months
How did you end up doing gentle parenting?
I don’t know if I would label myself gentle or traditional or whatever else. What my partner/husband and I do is discuss and do what feels right for us and Nina.
We can’t fit into anyone else’s boxes, we have to create our own spaces where all 3 of us are happy.
What does being a woke mama mean to you?
Being woke means being intentional about the way I’m raising my little girl and influencing my family.
It’s being aware of the past, present now and dreaming of a better future for the next generation.
It’s collecting the wisdom of our ancestors to ensure not only the survival but the thriving of our next generation.
Most awesome moment so far?
Giving birth was amazing, because it changed the way I thought about myself and my relationship with my hubby.
It was the day Nina came into this world, but it was almost like a renewal of vows in that we reached a new level that day.
I promised to trust more and he promised to be my rock.
Biggest struggle so far? How do you cope with stressful moments?
Biggest struggle is trusting that I am doing what is best for Nina. Grounding myself through prayers has helped the the stress.
How do you juggle work with gentle parenting?
Going back to work has been tough. I am about a month in now, and now more than ever it is clear I have to reflect and be very honest with myself regarding the type of life I want to live and the type of life I want to provide for my family.
I’m still thinking this through actually…. so we’ll have to check back in.
Any advice you would give to new mums?
Yes, talk to people. More importantly lean on your village and the sisters you have in your life.
Sharing your experiences, knowledge and struggles helps the whole community become stronger.
What’s on your soundtrack to your first year of being a Woke Mama?
It’s still in progress but a mix of Coltrane and Beyoncé played in my room at the birth center while I labored and delivered Nina.
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