Name & age: Heidi
Kids: Four – ranging from 24 years down to 11 months old, with a 17 and a 3 year old in the middle and 2 grandsons in between.
How did you end up doing gentle parenting?
I’m a strong advocate for the gentle parenting movement, with 4 daughters under my belt. I started my motherhood journey at the age of 19 and have always had a strong maternal instinct; I had 3 younger brothers and was assigned the job of baby whisperer at 9 years old when the youngest was born, as I was the only one that could settle him to bed. Lol no jokes!
I’ve always breastfed, co-slept and been led by my children’s needs. I truly believe in mothering this way, as it has given my girls the emotional stability, the confidence and unconditional love to have the independence to become strong well-adjusted human beings. To know that they are loved and supported always.
Research has shown that babies and children that are raised with this attachment style parenting have a higher IQ and are the opposite of what they are labelled e.g clingy, dependent, timid, not confident etc.
It also gives them the emotional confidence in relationships, coming from an environment where their emotional needs were met from a young age. You can’t replace that feeling of being loved. It’s fundamentally the most important thing in bringing up a child. And I would rather sacrifice my space in my bed, my boobs, for a happy child.
What does being a woke mama mean to you?
Being aware. In the 90s when I had my first two kids, I was young and less of a worrier – more a party girl/Earth Mama rolled into one, learning as I went along but with a strong sense of responsibility and protectiveness over my cubs. My babies grew with me and I just cracked on with it, which had its pros an cons. Thankfully I’m more wiser and definitely woke this time around.
For example back then I wasn’t aware of chemicals in products and foods etc. Now, nothing gets past me. Parabens, sulphates, caged hen eggs, non-organic milks, chickens lol. Nothing goes on their skin or in their mouths that hasn’t been scrutinised or researched by me, mostly by Googling a thousand times.
Biggest struggle so far?
I’ve had a lot of criticism in the past from family in particular, about always holding my babies, not allowing them to cry, co-sleeping until they’re in their teens etc (joke, not really. Well, apart from one).
Any advice you would give to new mums?
I believe children need love and affection — and that human contact is all we need to thrive in life.
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