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Name & age: Ruby, 22
Baby: Maia, 7 months
How did you end up doing gentle parenting?
I just follow my gut with Maia and try to ensure everything I do is best for her health and well-being and happiness!
It takes a while to find your feet as a parent and I’m a single, 22-year old mum who lives with her mother so a lot of my parenting with Maia is a mixture of trying to enjoy her baby days as much as possible, with also just trying to get through the sleep deprivation.
We don’t co-sleep as it doesn’t work for us; we have a few times but Maia is independent and has always loved her own space!
What does being a woke mama mean to you?
Raising a strong daughter who looks in the mirror and knows her reflection isn’t her worth.
Bringing up my daughter to see her kindness and empathy as her strongest skills.
We need to raise the next generation of children to take real action on the problems in the world. Teaching them to empathise, to share and that although they deserve the world, they don’t need to destroy it to enjoy it.
Most awesome moment so far?
Every time she smiles becomes the most awesome moment. A smile or a laugh from Maia is so unbelievably healing.
Biggest struggle so far? How do you cope with stressful moments?
Our experience was incredibly emotionally painful, and still is some days. I so desperately wanted to directly nurse Maia and after ten weeks of trying to get her exclusively on the boob, I just gave in to exclusive pumping.
She’s 7 months now and I’ll still try to latch her daily. But really, pumping has ensured I filled her with all the goodness of breastmilk her entire life and has helped six other babies too as I’ve been able to donate!
I never would have chosen this path for myself but sometimes I like to think Maia chose it for me, so that she could share her mama’s milk with other babies that needed it.
How do you juggle work with gentle parenting?
I work from home part-time at the moment. I do the hours while Maia naps, or plays, or my Mum will look after her for a few hours.
I’m so incredibly lucky that I have my mother, she has an amazing bond with Maia and she has looked after me so well.
Any advice you would give to new mums?
Do whatever you need to do to stay sane. Children are nuts and all of them are different. Find what works for YOU, no one’s advice matters. Just follow your own instincts!
Each baby and each mother are so different and no one can possibly know your situation unless they have lived it.
Motherhood is HARD, no doubt about it, but it’s the most beautiful and rewarding job you’ll have.
Do what you need to to survive the sleepless nights and cherish those moments of utter joy with your baby.
What’s on your soundtrack to your first year of being a Woke Mama?
Sea of Love by Cat Power – got to love the Juno soundtrack. Also the WHOLE playlist of ‘Soul lounge’ on Spotify, it’s a dance in the kitchen kinda playlist.
Follow the inspiring beauty Ruby on the gram @yungmutha
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