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Name & age: Tiffany, 29
Baby: Aria, 1 and a half
How did you end up doing gentle parenting?
I am a go with the flow mama. I am there for my daughter but want her to be independent at the same time.
What does being a woke mama mean to you?
Breaking boundaries and breaking stereotypes of what motherhood should look like.
There is no one “right way” to parent. Building another mom up while respecting her parenting choices are important as long as the baby/child’s well-being is not at risk.
Most awesome moment so far?
The ability to still breastfeed at 20 months. I was a full-time mom and would pump so she could still be exclusively breastfed.
I in no way believe “breast is best.” I do understand that breastfeeding is beautiful and a large number of women are unable to do this – and I’m glad to be a lucky mom that can still produce and bond this way.
Biggest struggle so far? How do you cope with stressful moments?
Extended breastfeeding. I know I said it was awesome, but breastfeeding a toddler is a whole different ball game.
Nursing can turn into a live action jungle gym and it gets really hard to hide the emotions of not wanting to be grabbed on. Knowing this is special for her and it’s a bond helps relieve stress.
Also an hour off a week, even if it’s just a bath, helps restart my stress clock.
How do you juggle work with gentle parenting?
When working full time I was lucky to have family watch my daughter so they knew my boundaries.
Also as soon as I got home we would cuddle and have alone time then move on to an activity – usually coloring – of her choice.
Any advice you would give to new mums?
Find your tribe. It doesn’t have to be big, even one other mom friend can help when you need to vent it out.
Also talk to your doctor and don’t hold back. I was shy with my post-partum depression and I wish I would have spoken up more about the struggles I was facing.
What’s on your soundtrack to your first year of being a Woke Mama?
I am such a 90s baby and would listen to Aaliyah radio on Iheart. It helped me clean, relax, and dance off that baby weight. Now that my daughter is almost 2, we dance to these throwbacks while cooking dinner.
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