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Name & age: Elise, 25
Baby: Kaia, 2
How did you end up doing gentle parenting?
It just sort of came natural. I never liked calling a kid “bad”. To this day I get on at people who say Kaia is being bad. No, she’s just a baby. She’s exploring.
I believe in guiding my child to do the right thing, but I don’t think that means you have to always force them into listening. Sometimes learning on your own is the best way.
What does being a woke mama mean to you?
To me, I think gentle parenting has created a better opportunity to bond with my daughter.
She’s my daughter, but I see her as her own little person. She’s going to want to express herself, but right now she doesn’t necessarily have all the tools to do it correctly.
It means that I’m cherishing each stage of my daughter growing. I’m not trying to force her into this little adult. That type of parenting just isn’t for me.
Most awesome moment so far?
When Kaia wakes up in the morning and yells, “Mama!” from her crib, and when I go to pick her up and she just lays her head on my shoulder and pats my back.
Also, seeing her master the forward roll in her gymnastics. She was very skeptical at first.
Biggest struggle so far? How do you cope with stressful moments?
I’m not a perfect parent unfortunately, and sometimes I have my moments. Sometimes when we’re in public the yelling or screaming from Kaia will get the best of me and become overwhelming.
But I have to remember she’s just so little. Sometimes it’s hard to do this single momming thing all the time. But even when there’s hard moments, there’s never not a rewarding moment.
How do you juggle work with gentle parenting?
I’ve been at work since she was 3 months. I don’t see it as much of a struggle with interfering with gentle parenting. I love my daughter’s daycare.
Any advice you would give to new mums?
Hard times always pass. Just cherish the good moments, and hold onto that when you feel lost.
What’s on your soundtrack to your first year of being a Woke Mama?
A bluegrass song called “Little Hands,” by the Seldom Scene and Johnathen Edwards.
Follow the loverly Elise and Kaia on the gram here ❤
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