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Name & age: Amanda, 28
Baby: Atom, 2
What does being a woke mama mean to you?
Being woke is to be aware of how the outside environment can impact not only my child, but my own parenting.
When I became pregnant, I thought I knew everything about parenting having helped care for my two nieces . Wow, was I wrong!
Parenting has shaken me to my core and has forced me to question all my beliefs, like where my food comes from, how to best parent to raise a gentle and confident child, and of course sometimes I even have questioned my own mother. (Gasp!)
Being a woke mama means that I will raise my son to be a feminist, to be in tune with his emotions, and to accept that he can love whomever he wants.
Most awesome moment so far?
I have been nursing my son for two years! That has been the best moment. If you would have told me two years ago that I would have been nursing past the 2 year mark, I would have cried with excitement and a little fear.
Biggest struggle so far? How do you cope with stressful moments?
Being a full time working mom, but I can go into that more later. The second biggest struggle has been manoeuvring around comments others make regarding the way we (my boyfriend and I) parent Atom. That alone causes stress.
Being judged because we go out, because we don’t feed our baby any animal products, because I am nursing a toddler. I mean the list goes on.
My support system, my mom and the other moms in my life help me cope.
How do you juggle work with gentle parenting?
I am a full time mental health therapist and have been working full time since my son was three months (thank the lack of maternity leave in America).
Since then, I have depended on my mother, siblings, and mother in law to care for Atom when my boyfriend and I are at work.
We have informed our own mothers of the values we are trying to instil in Atom and thankfully they have been amazing at respecting our parenting values.
Any advice you would give to new mums?
Be kind to yourself. Being a new mom is so difficult and sadly no one really tells you the truth about motherhood.
Yes, your baby is a blessing. Yes, your baby is the best thing that has ever happened to you. (All comments I receive when I make comments about motherhood being tiring). However, you need to care for yourself before you can care for anyone else.
It is OK if you miss your old life, before you became a mom.
And the guilt, the mom guilt is always there, but it does become a little smaller.
What’s on your soundtrack to your first year of being a Woke Mama?
The Head and the Heart, J Cole, Kendrick Lamar, Kings of Leon, and Alabama Shakes.
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