Want to know WTF a Woke Mama is? Each week, we’re introducing awesome women who are making the world a kinder place, one happy baby at a time.
Name & age: Kirsty 32
Baby: Sonny, 7 months
How did you end up doing gentle parenting?
Being just the two of us, it’s important to me that we have a strong and trusting bond.
Sonny knows that if he communicates with me, I will respond. We’ve been a team since day one, and it’s made the struggles fun.
What does being a woke mama mean to you?
Happiness. That’s the most important thing. That’s what I want for Sonny everyday throughout his life.
We’ve never left each other. We laugh throughout every day. He knows that I am always there, which in turn makes my job as a Mum so much easier.
He can play in one room, and I can be in another, doing my own thing. His knowing that all he has to do is shout to me, and I’ll be there, means that he is less ‘fussy’, ‘clingy’, or ‘needy’.
But he doesn’t need to be, because he knows I’m just a shout away.
Most awesome moment so far?
Strangers come up to be every single time we go out (every day) to tell me that they’ve never seen a happier or more content baby.
He is SO confident around others. He’ll grab hold of strangers hands on public transport, and just sit there, smiling at them, holding their hand. He’s fantastic.
I’ve created in Sonny, the happiest, most content, most confident baby. That is awesome.
Biggest struggle so far? How do you cope with stressful moments?
Undiagnosed, severe, tongue tie for the first two months, scar tissue and low supply for the third, meaning that I had to breastfeed continually for 24/22/19 hours a day.
A break in to our home at 1.30am, when Sonny was one week old, when I had to walk in on the thief, to disturb them, with a baby attached to my nipple.
People giving totally unsolicited advice, but not listening to a single thing that you, the person who knows your child the most, is actually saying.
My past struggles with anxiety and depression being used as a way to bully and frighten me throughout my pregnancy, with threats to report me to the authorities, being a regular occurrence.
Positive comments from strangers, regarding how great Sonny is, are what get me through the negativity, and remind me that I’m doing an amazing job.
How will you juggle work with gentle parenting?
Self employment, it’s definitely the way forward for mums.
Through the negativity of around 54,000 women a year being essentially forced out of the workplace, during pregnancy and once they’ve had a baby, a generation of mums are creating jobs for themselves.
Jobs that fit around their life as a mum. I really think that this is going to positively affect current and future generations of babies.
Any advice you would give to new mums?
Firstly, you know what’s going on with your baby. You might feel like you don’t, but you do.
Secondly, research tongue ties. It’s something that seems to affect every other baby, and not enough training in detecting it has been given to postnatal staff.
The NCT put forward a petition regarding this, to the previous health minister, but action hasn’t been taken yet.
Follow artist Kirsty and her beautiful creations – especially Sonny! – on Instagram.
Like what ya see? We’ll be introducing more awesome Woke Mamas. But we want to hear from YOU. Share your stories on social media using #WokeMamas or write your answers here.
Sick of boring baby blogs? Join our rad AF collective & raise a kinder world. Subscribe rn to get new posts to your inbox by hitting “follow” below and join us on Facebook, Instagram & Twitter. We love U 4 reals.