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Name & age: Brittany 28
Baby: Eva, 18 months
How did you end up doing gentle parenting?
Fell into it…. for a while now my husband and I have been practising gentle parenting, we just never put a title or technical term to it.
Prior to even having our daughter we looked at the pros and cons of how we were raised and definitely agreed to try something different from what our parents did.
I myself having a background in human development and family studies, also didn’t want to be so technical or textbook when it came to raising our child.
We take our parenting seriously but we also take our child’s individuality and personal characteristics into consideration when parenting.
What does being a woke mama mean to you?
I consider myself a KitchenAid mixer (quality), somehow always being able to bring things together to make it work. Being able to take the sour with the sweet.
Just because the title says mixer that’s not all I do because this Woke Mama is multi-functional!
Not afraid to grind or get down and dirty. Strong enough to protect, but soft enough to nurture.
A Woke Mama is limitless!
Most awesome moment so far?
Embracing motherhood in my own way, stepping outside of the family norm.
Biggest struggle so far? How do you cope with stressful moments?
The biggest struggle so far is trusting people with my child. Even those close to me from my mother to my sister to my husband I had a hard time thinking that there was no one else that can take care of my child better than I could.
I was the only one that could do for her what she needed done in the best possible way… but eventually that led to burnouts and no sleep and a lot of frustration and anxiety.
Currently with her getting closer to 2 years, I still have some trust issues, but I have no problem with sharing the load especially when it means Mama gets to take a nap.
How do you juggle work with gentle parenting?
Teamwork Makes the Dream Work. I’m more like the daytime parent and my husband is the night time.
We are constantly having to go over or review Eva’s behaviour or how things are going with her and how we should handle situations when they come up.
And beginning with me going back to work we just had to understand that this was an adjustment not just for us but for her as well, and that it may take her longer to understand this new pattern or routine that we had. Communication is key.
Any advice you would give to new mums?
Take all the advice that is given to you.
Understand the role as “Mom” is to not be taken for granted.
You are powerful you are strong and you’re not alone.
Educate yourself and others.
Follow Brittany on Instagram @the_ogeblues
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