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Name & age: Meg 33
Kids: Jude (2) and Georgia (5 months)
How did you end up doing gentle parenting?
Embracing babies core needs makes the world a simpler, happier place. But gentle parenting isn’t just about our brilliant babies; it is about being gentle to ourselves too.
My first birth was hugely traumatic and I bullied myself for months after wishing I had ‘done better’. Once I learnt to be gentle and kind to myself I was a calmer, softer human being to everyone, especially my children.
This also led me re-think my approach to my reflexology business. I now specialise in Fourth Trimester reflexology treatments for parents; to nourish and nurture tired bodies to best prepare them for the months ahead.
It’s an old cliche but so true; you cannot love others unless you truly love yourself.
What does being a woke mama mean to you?
Just being me; sounds simple but it is so much harder than it seems given the mountain of information thrown at us nowadays.
The internet, forums, women on buses all giving us their view on how to mother our children chips away at our self confidence.
I am constantly working at being unapologetic in my approach to loving my children and showering my and other people’s children with smiles and love.
Most awesome moment so far?
Every morning we get both kids into bed with us for cuddles, books and chats. We watch Jude give Georgia a morning cuddle and ask if she ‘sleep well’.
I hope our affection and love is making him comfortable with showing his feelings.
Biggest struggle so far? How do you cope with stressful moments?
I suffered with quite severe PTSD after Jude’s potentially life changing birth and it rears its head sometimes.
When that happens I gently reassure myself, do hand reflexology and solar plexus breathing, and make sure I talk to my husband about how I am feeling.
How do you juggle work with gentle parenting?
I went back to work for 4 months between Jude and Georgia, and will go back to work again in January next year.
We are lucky to have family in London who are full of love and kindness towards the kids to help when they can.
However, we need more companies to listen to parents’ specific needs when it comes to childcare. Fridges for milk storage, flexible hours, and bespoke return to work programmes need to be mainstream.
Any advice you would give to new mums?
You are the best possible parent for your child/children. They need no-one else but you.
So whatever you are doing, whatever meal you are scraping together and whatever non-toy toy you create from old make-up brushes are perfect for them.
What’s on your soundtrack to your first year of being a Woke Mama?
Bob Marley on repeat. It’s been our bedtime soundtrack since Jude was born (that’s two years of Bob every night!)
Last word: Anyone in London looking for a post-natal reflexology treatment, or looking for something to give a new mum friend as a ‘you’ve just birthed a baby!’ treat, get in touch!
Follow Meg and her Fourth Trimester specialist reflexology treatments at @reflexologyhouse – we tried it once and she is incredible! ❤
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