Mekhi’s 2nd Birthday is around the corner and I’ve honestly been stuck on what to buy him. Whenever Mekhi goes to creche he spends time pushing the baby doll in the pushchair, so I thought I’d buy him one.
But before purchasing, I asked a few people their opinions.
Why is it that when I ask people what they think about boys playing with dolls they can’t justify an answer?
I continuously get told: “They just shouldn’t play with them”, and believe it or not I’ve been told this more than a handful of times.
What I don’t understand though, is why shouldn’t boys play with them?
Why can’t my son role-play something so natural? Why should I bring him up to think only girls/women look after their offspring and that boys only play with trucks and trains?
Believe it or not, conditioning our children into gender stereotypes starts from such a young age.
How many times have you gone on a toy website and seen a load of cars and trucks that are blue or green? Why are the domestic role play toys always pink or purple?
I have nothing wrong with these colours but we all know this is no accident, it’s to appeal to boys and girls individually.
This isn’t a blog for me to justify why I have no problem purchasing a doll for my son but to simply ask anyone out there to join this conversation and tell me why members of this society think it’s okay to gender stereotype our children’s toys.
What do you think this tells your child?
We raise our children and tell them that they can be anything their heart desires, yet their toys can contradict this.
The way we bring our children up has a huge effect on the people they become as an adult and the toys they play with can also be a part of this.
Let’s allow our children to play with toys that make them happy.
Excuse the rant, but I’m also so fed up with gender stereotypes being forced onto young children through fashion too.
I’m so sick of seeing a nice “boys” T-shirt online and then seeing ‘Born to Break Rules’ plastered on the back!
I know this happens with “girls” clothes just as much, and it’s equally annoying. Little tops plastered in 50 shades of pink with ‘Pretty Little Princess’ on the back.
My problem isn’t even the fact that the girls/boys section is separate; I don’t mind that because let’s be honest it makes my life easier when it comes to online shopping.
My point is that from a young age, boys are conditioned to ‘Be Brave’ and told they’re ‘Trouble Makers’ and I’m sick and tired of it.
I’m not saying if you decide to put your child in these clothes it will write their fate, but for me personally, I’d rather stick to the positive slogans and child-friendly clothes.
I love this khaki T-shirt I bought from Zara, the slogan is reversed so when your child looks in the mirror it reads “I am aiming to the stars to build a brand new world”. The orange T-shirt is from H&M and I love the message and colour.
I’m always on the lookout for nice slogan tees for Mekhi; let me know of any good brands or tops you see! And maybe we should stop buying and therefore reinforcing negative gender stereotypes through toys and clothes.
We just might give them all a brighter, more open and positive future.
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