Discussing disabilities with your child: a guide

By Sharmika 

Sharmika has set up Beyond Strength, a network of parents managing long-term health issues or disabilities, either first hand or with their children. 

When you sit down and discuss topics like manners, playing nicely and homework with your kids, please also take the time to add disability awareness, and accepting everyone’s differences to your chat. Here’s some advice on discussing disabilities with your child.

Be led by their curiosity

Around the age of four years old, you will start to notice how aware your child has become of the differences between others and themselves. They may notice if someone doesn’t look, talk, or behave in the same way as them or others they are familiar with.

This is when your child may start to ask questions about the differences they notice. It’s normal for your child to be curious. And it’s important that you answer these questions the best way you can, as whatever you do say will lay the foundations for understanding.

When your child starts to become more aware of others with a disability, it might be because of someone they have seen while out, or someone in their class.

One of the best ways to start discussing disabilities with your child, would be to start pointing out the ways that you and your child are different – your hair colour, skin colour, the way we speak and dress. Then go on to speak to your child about how we all may do things in different ways.

Here are a few sentence starters:

“Some people can’t hear so they will wear something around their ear to help them to hear, which is called a ‘hearing aid’.”

“Some people are unable to walk as they may have injured their legs, so they may use a walking stick or a wheelchair to help them get around.”

In this way, you are helping with your child’s ability to accept all the ways that people can be different from her or him. Also include that while we are different in most ways, we are still the same in lots of other ways. A child may be in a wheelchair, but still may enjoy the same games.

Setting a good example

When you and your child see someone with a disability, carry on as usual. This will help your child to see that regardless of differences, we should all be treated the same.

Sometimes discussing disabilities means setting a positive example for them to pick up a positive attitude.

Lastly, you can find up-to-date books and videos to show your child that promote diversity and disability awareness on my supportive community of parents of children living with disabilities, Beyond Strength_ on Instagram.

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