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Name & age: Jenna, 32
Kids: Finn, 3 and Toby, 1
How did you end up doing gentle parenting?
It was an intuitive thing. It probably started with sleeping. Finn, my first, would feed through the night, like all babes do. One night or early morning I fell asleep with him still feeding. Since that moment he has never left our bed.
What does being a woke mama mean to you?
For me it means being curious. Always learning, always tuning back in to your own innate wisdom. Questioning why we do what we do.
We subconsciously are programmed to follow these scripts and ideals from generations passed. And while I think they had lots of wisdom, I also believe there is a great deal we can learn from and do better.
Motherhood has been somewhat commodified. We need to lead the way in taking it back as a truly magical transformation that is honoured and valued.
Most awesome moment so far?
There are so many. But raising kind boys who kiss and hug each other and truly love each other is pretty special.
Biggest struggle so far? How do you cope with stressful moments?
I struggle all the time, and I have great moments all the time. Such is the rich tapestry of motherhood. I think we need to talk more about the struggles, because with the rise of social media we increasingly see happy snaps and not the real moments.
We have no grandparents in the boys life and ultimately no regular support. We moved out of the city (Sydney) when my youngest was born to give the boys a more down to earth upbringing. And while in so many ways it has been a wonderful sea-change, it has also been very isolating.
My fiancé is a shift worker in Sydney and is sometimes gone for 3 days at a time. I struggle with the loneliness of motherhood a lot on these days. They say “it takes a village” and yet I have to be that village… and that pressure takes its toll.
I truly believe that the struggles I face are compounded by the unsupportive capitalist society we find ourselves in. A society that values money over people.
Young families face so much pressure these days. We don’t have a moment to breathe and connect. People used to rally around and support a family transitioning into parenthood.
We don’t have that luxury anymore because time is money, and we are all trying to stay afloat!
How will you juggle work with gentle parenting?
I was a flight attendant pre babes. And the industry is not accommodating to families or feminists (lol) so I need to up-skill and try and find something more family friendly.
Finding the balance in an unbalanced society is going to be interesting, but I’ll move mountains for my kids and hopefully find a way.
Any advice you would give to new mums?
Be your own guru.
What’s on your soundtrack to your first year of being a Woke Mama?: Gnarls Barkley – I think I’m crazy
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